Life in a family can be challenging. Whether it's your biological family or your church family. We are human and we often hurt the ones closest to us. James hits the nail on the head when it comes to the source of all fighting and bickering: we want what we want, not what God wants. When we put our desires first, we give ourselves permission to do what it takes to get them. If that means stepping on some people along the way, so be it. After all, my desires come first! Now, we may not say that literally, but it's the logic we are using when we quarrel with our brothers and sisters. We are putting our desires ahead of God's. James quotes Proverbs when he says "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." Then, tells us to get our priorities back in order and "submit to God." Submitting to God sometimes means humbling yourself before a family member. It's not our human reaction, but it is a Godly one. And God will reward it with His Grace!